FAQS

HOW LONG HAVE YOU HAD LOCS (AKA, DREADLOCKS)?

I have had my locs since early 2004. When I started, my hair was about an inch long! You can find out more about my hair journey on my YouTube channel.

HOW DID YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND MEET?

It's a somewhat long story, but basically, our families knew each other, and that's how we met. About six weeks after our first real conversation, we eloped to Vegas.

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED?

We've been married since June of 2003, and things get better every year (honestly!).

WHAT'S IT LIKE BEING MARRIED TO A WHITE DUDE? 

Well, I've only been married the one time, so I don't have anything to compare this to (haha!), but it's pretty amazing. I mean, I didn't set out to marry a White man and he didn't intend to marry a Black woman; it just sort of happened that way because of love. He simply understands me better than anyone of any color, period. And we've never shied away from speaking honestly about race, whether it's within the confines of our relationship and our family, or the world outside our doorstep. Come what may, we're always on the same team. 

WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO PURSUE A VBAC (VAGINAL BIRTH AFTER CESAREAN)?

I was a bit traumatized by my first birth experience. I recognized that it was the right thing to do for my oldest son (the cord was wrapped around his neck twice), but I wasn't comfortable being doomed to the "Once a C-section, always a C-section" adage. So, I researched online, read books and articles, and stumbled onto the VBAC community. After reading so many triumphant stories, I knew I had to try for the birth that I wanted. While I loved the idea of a home birth, I wanted to take precautions considering my history, so I delivered naturally in a VBAC-friendly hospital. In the event that I was one of the small percentage of women who experienced uterine rupture, I wanted to be in a place where they were equipped to deal with such an emergency. Blessedly, I gave birth to my second beautiful boy with no complications whatsoever. You can read a more detailed account of my birth story here. A few years later, I was able to have my second natural VBAC! Watch this video to get the full scoop.

DO YOU WANT TO HAVE MORE KIDS?

Nah, the kitchen's closed, folks! We welcomed our third and final baby--our sweet Joy--in May of 2014, and she's made our family complete. 

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