Around this time, most folks tend to focus on their Big Plans for the upcoming year. I totally understand this. I've done it many times, in fact. However, I didn't really want to repeat the same pattern for 2014. Something about this year is very different. I lean more toward the serious--and often dark--aspects of life, and in an effort to combat that, I am trying something completely new: Taking it easy and focusing on all things bright, fun, and yes, frivolous!
In that vein, I created the following list. Enjoy!
- Learn to "smize": For the uninitiated, smize is a term coined by Tyra Banks, and refers to the art of smiling with one's eyes, rather than the mouth. I don't understand how to do this. At. All. Seriously, I look ridiculous when I try, but others are quite good adept at it. Honestly, I just want to do more than smile in every picture, y'know? Seeing as how we live in the Age of the Selfie, I might as well embrace it.
Here's Kim K., nailing the smize.
- Perfect the "cut crease": The cut crease a method of makeup application that exaggerates the crease of the eye for a more dramatic effect. There are many variations of the look, and I pretty much adore them all. My eyelids are somewhat hooded and I don't have a visible socket bone, but I'm determined to master this technique because it looks so damn beautiful! I may not do it every day, but it's a useful tool to have in my beauty arsenal.
A festive example of the cut crease by one of my favorite
(This pic is from her Instagram feed.)
- Master the art of the head wrap: I love a good bun and adore an easy, breezy ponytail as much as the next gal, but sometimes I just want add more drama to my look. Thanks to all this hair and a big ol' cranium, hats are hard to find. Enter, The Headwrap. Now, my locs are fairly long, but I think with some finagling, I can find a style of wrap--or two, or 10--to suit my needs. I mean, the fierceness of the ladies below is staggering, isn't it? *sigh*
- Have fun with mixing prints: My natural instincts are to match like things with other things, so the idea of mixing seemingly incompatible prints is completely foreign to me...but I'm totally intrigued by it! There is something a bit subversive about it, but also relaxed and carefree. I don't understand it, but I want to push myself to give it a try. My style could use a bit of upheaval, honestly.
- Cook & entertain more: We don't have the most picture-perfect home, nor do we don't live in a swanky neighborhood. We're pretty modest folks, and for too long, that's kept me from opening my doors and blessing people I love with food and fellowship. The truth of the matter is that I actually enjoy feeding people and connecting with them. Sure, it's takes some effort and a bit of planning, but ultimately, it's more than worth it. Inviting people into my home breaks down barriers, allowing the love to flow through. In this day and age, those connections are fewer and farther between. Thanks to the internet, we think we're more linked together, but it's a bit of an illusion. I don't want social media to act as a substitute for real interaction. Sharing a meal with someone will always mean more than clicking "subscribe" or "follow". And I never want to mistake one for the other.
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And, lastly, my most important goal for 2014:
- EMBRACE & ENJOY MY LIFE: Every single second of it. It is such a gift and I don't know how long I'll be around to live it. I know that sounds a bit morbid, but it's true. I don't want to assume I have forever, and then use that as an excuse not to actively pursue my dreams! A couple weeks ago, I helped out with and attended a funeral...for a three year-old. The sweet little soul was hit by a car as he and his family were crossing the street (they had the right of way). One second he was there; the next, he was gone. Nothing about that makes any kind of sense, and yet, it happened. As I sat in that pew, listening to his loved ones share all the wonderful times they had with him, I mentally scolded myself for all the time I'd wasted. And I vowed to change my life. My existence is too important to take lightly. I'm still here, still standing, still breathing. Now what am I going to do with it?
How about you? Do you have any goals/resolutions for 2014? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments! I read and appreciate each and every one. :)