Everybody Likes Double Ds...Dara Meets Dara!
I'm sure you're intrigued by the title of this post (ha!), so allow me to explain. About a month ago, I was contacted by the lovely Dara Tafakari, of Truly Tafakari, to take part in a collaboration. Seeing as how I was already a Twitter followerand fan of hers, I naturally jumped at the chance! In addition to sharing the same name, we discovered we had a lot more in common! We discussed a number of ideas, but in the end, decided to start with some introductory questions to allow our respective readers to get to know us. Dara is smart, funny, and engaging, and I hope this is the first of many collaborations with her! Once you've finished reading her responses to these questions, head over to Truly Tafakari to see mine (and show her some comment love)!
1. What does your blog name mean to you?
I tell the story in greater detail here, but to make a long story short… My name is Dara Tafakari, but my mother originally named me Tafakari Tumaini when I was born. Tafakari is Swahili, meaning to reflect. I am always reflecting, thinking, working on ways to explain and change the world. My blog name, Truly Tafakari, is my nod to that, where I reflect on humor and truth in the world around me. (That includes biscuits, by the way; biscuits are the truth.)
2. Where do you live and where are you going?
My family and I (I am a wife and the mommy of a 3 year-old I call “Bean”) currently live in the Atlanta metro area (peace up, A-town down!) We love it here, but we are considering a move…sometime soon. No solid plans yet!
3. So, Dara, who gave you such a wonderful name like Dara?
Technically, my mama did. But when she decided I needed a new first name, she chose my cousin’s middle name: Dara. So my cousin gets a hat tip, too!
4. When is your birthday?
Feel free to regale me with gifts during the entire blessed month of October, but I accept birthday wishes specifically on October 29th.
5. Why do you write?
I write because the Word is with God. I write because I’m an introvert and writing is my best mode of expression. I write to make sense of the world and of myself. I write because I believe words can effect change, heal, incite, and move people. I write because words are the only thing of value I own. I write because words will outlive these bones once I am buried.
6. What was your very first job?
Oh, goodness. At 16, I was a bagger at a grocery store called Publix. I was a terrible bagger. I couldn’t carry much and was always hiding in the aisles pretending to stock until they called me to the front. LOL.
7. What Bible verse do you turn to for comfort or encouragement?
Because I struggle so often with fear and inaction:2 Timothy 1:7 -- For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
8. Besides writing, name one hidden talent that you possess.
This talent is rather useless, but it’s all mine: I’m rather good at standing on one foot like a stork while cooking in front of the stove.
9. What color do you find yourself drawn to?
I grew up in West Central Florida, so I consider myself a child of the water. I love shades of blue and green, whether they are turquoise, jade, cerulean… You will always find me wearing some hue reminiscent of the everlasting ocean.
10. What keeps you believing in God?
I’ll admit that I’m a planner and a know-it-all. But my belief in God stems from the knowledge there are so many good things that have happened in my life that I have absolutely nothing to do with. No amount of planning could work the blessings He has bestowed on me.
11. What is the most difficult aspect of motherhood? And the most rewarding?
Motherhood gets difficult when I start to feel there is not enough mother for all the energy my 3-year-old demands of me. But it’s equally rewarding when she picks up on something I have taught her and she just nails it. That’s when I feel like I’m doing motherhood right.
12. Tell me about your natural hair journey.
I went natural because I was broke in graduate school. I chopped off all my hair in the bathroom in 2006 and I have kept relaxers at arm’s length from my head ever since. I love my fluffy, disobedient, crazy, distinctive hair.
13. What is your biggest pet peeve?
I don’t like it when people insult my intelligence. It may be somewhat prideful of me, but if I *know* what I’m talking about and people treat me like I’m ignorant, it rubs me all the wrong way!
14. When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up? Have you attained that goal? If not, why?
I think I’ve always wanted to be a writer of some sort. I guess you could say, after majoring in English and working as a proofreader/business writer for 7 years, I’ve attained part of that goal. I’m still working on becoming Toni Morrison, though. Stay tuned for that! LOL.
15. Have you always been knowledgeable about race, racism, White supremacy, etc? If not, how have your views evolved? What triggered the growth?
I had a unique opportunity as a kid; my parents were both very pro-Black and I went to a pan-African summer camp as a child. Consequently, I learned a lot about the African Diaspora, racism, colonialism, and civil rights at a very young age. I majored in African-American Literature in graduate school as well. This definitely gave me a lot of insight into African-American history, and even global history of the African Diaspora. I read a lot. I indulge my curiosity. And I never get tired of learning.