8 Affirmations of Self-Care.
I adore the holiday season. There is so much to love about it, from the cooling temperatures—particularly thankful for those, seeing as how summers in Phoenix are over 100 degrees!—to the cheery Christmas music, to the quiet recognition of and reverence for the birth of Jesus. I've always had this feeling of expectation that something magical would/could happen. (I'm working on carrying that feeling into the rest of the year, but haven't quite mastered that, yet!)
As I've gotten older, however, life has inevitably become more complicated. The miracle of the season is still intact, but there are definitely other, less positive aspects that have gotten in the way of my enjoyment.
Family is such a gift, but for so many us, this time of year can be wrought with negativity, resentment, and bitterness. Having dealt with all three of these emotions (and more!) over the years, I've finally come to a place where I feel empowered to make choices on my own behalf. I have found that if I do not properly care for myself, I'm more likely to lose sight of the splendor all around me.
If you're finding yourself feeling overwhelmed, angry, or sad, right now, perhaps the affirmations below will remind you to put yourself on that growing to-do list, preferably at the top.
- "No" is a complete sentence that does not require explanation.
- I will not feel guilty or ashamed for acting on my own behalf.
- I deserve to be treated with respect and dignity.
- I am not obligated to interact with those who have caused me harm.
- I have the right to enact boundaries wherever and whenever necessary.
- I am free to change my mind at any time, for any reason.
- I have the right to feel safe.
- My needs matter.
I felt silly when the idea for this post first came to me, but the act of writing it down made it real. Logically, I knew all of this stuff, but emotionally, somewhere along the line, I'd forgotten I was free to exercise control over my own life! Instead, I was repeatedly bending and contorting to please people who rarely—if ever—reciprocated. To make matters worse, on the rare occasion I
assert, I was accused of being "selfish" and "difficult". As a result, I turned my attentions not toward the perpetrators, but my innocent husband and children, who became the primary targets of my frustration.
Due to the accelerated journey I've been on in the last month, though, this horrible cycle has officially—thankfully—come to an end. The process of opening my eyes has not been easy, but priceless nonetheless. These declarations are just another signal that I am changing for the better and my prayer is that they are able to do the same for you.
May you never forget that you